Oh, hey. I’m Kate.

I’m a coach and licensed therapist, and I’m really into connection and social health.

Community, friendship, and belonging have always mattered to me — in theory. But in practice? I was a mess. Adult friendship felt like a mystery I just couldn’t crack.

I told myself stories about why I was stuck:
I was introverted. Socially anxious. An alien.

I could kind of make new friends, but they’d fizzle. I’d try to connect, sort of, but it was uncomfortable and discouraging. I’d leave interactions feeling worse, not better.

Eventually, I decided I was just a loner. I built a life that protected that belief. My world got smaller. It was safe — but also isolating.

I even left agency work to start a private practice, partly because being around people all day was so draining. And the thing is — I wasn’t bored. I wasn’t even lonely, exactly. But I carried a quiet belief that something was wrong with me… because I didn’t have the kind of friendships I thought I should, and didn’t believe I was capable of creating the kind I truly wanted.

I didn’t know how to be around people.

I defaulted to people-pleasing and chameleon mode. I lost track of myself around others. It was exhausting, painful, and deeply unsatisfying. It did not feel good. So I retreated. And the further I withdrew, the more alien other people felt. The more I felt like I didn’t belong anywhere.

Then the pandemic hit — and I was relieved. No more pretending. No more trying. I could just stay home with my husband and pets and not deal with the pressure.

But eventually, something shifted.

The Wake-Up Call

When I got pregnant with my daughter, I knew I wanted something different for her and for me. I wanted a sense of community, real friendship, and genuine connection.

So I finally committed to the work of figuring it out:

• Unraveling old stories

• Shifting patterns

• And most importantly, doing it with support

I began to let go of the strategies and defenses that had protected me, but also kept me separate. I started showing up more and more as myself, peeling back the layers.

And guess what?
The more I was just me, the more I connected with people, the more (some) people wanted to know me, and the more I actually enjoyed being around others. I didn’t have to psych myself up anymore. I stopped feeling physically ill before social events (a true miracle). I let it be messy. I learned to have fun with it.

Am I a social paragon now?

Yes.
Just kidding. No.

I’m still a weirdo. Still working on it. Still human.
But my life is well-peopled. I feel connected — to myself, and to others. I see things more clearly. I experience more fully. I have more joy and fun. Life is richer.

If you’re struggling with friendship or connection — I get it.

And now, I help others do this work too.
You don’t have to be as far gone as I was. You just have to be ready to start.

You’re in the right place if...

• You want close friends, but feel like you’re starting from scratch — and it’s overwhelming, rusty, and anxiety-inducing.

• You’re more comfortable alone than with most people. You know connection matters, but the idea of “putting yourself out there” makes you cringe.

• You’ve been focused on career, caregiving, or survival mode — and suddenly realized your friendships have slipped away.

• You’ve outgrown your old social circle, but have no idea how to find people who fit now.

• You have friends… but no community. Everyone’s scattered. There’s no cohesion.

• You struggle to deepen relationships — from acquaintance to close friend.

• You’ve been hurt in friendship before, and you’re scared to try again.

• You’re new in town, and building a social life from scratch.

• You feel lonely with your friends — like they don’t really see or get you.

Here's the truth:

We have a loneliness problem.
A social isolation problem.
And an authenticity problem.

The world isn’t going to roll out a red carpet and usher you into meaningful connection. Belonging is an inside-out job. It starts with you — with your willingness to face discomfort, rewrite old stories, and do things differently.

But you don’t have to do it alone.

If you’re ready to get unstuck and build the friendships and community you’ve been craving… I’m here to help.