Hello! I’m Kate.
I am a coach and licensed therapist helping thoughtful adults in their 30s and 40s create meaningful friendships and find their place in community.
If you’re struggling with friendship or connection — I get it. I’ve been there, too.
I know what it’s like to feel disconnected from others and unsure where you belong
To feel overwhelmed and uncertain of where to start.
To lose confidence and get stuck in the cycle of “working on yourself” before you’re ready to try again.
Making friends as an adult can be hard.
I came to this work because it was really hard for me.
In adulthood, life scattered my core friendships. I found myself feeling untethered and anxious around people in a way that made forming and sustaining friendships feel especially challenging.
So I pulled back. Over time, my world got smaller.
I threw myself into work. I had family, interests, plenty to keep me busy.
But socially, I defaulted to avoidance. And when I couldn’t avoid, I masked — people-pleasing, chameleoning.
I lost track of myself around others, like I didn’t have access to who I really was.
I either made myself invisible or twisted myself into who I thought others wanted me to be.
So I get it. I understand what it’s like to feel rusty, like you can’t connect with people, like you don’t fit in.
When I felt most disconnected, I didn’t need to try harder — or hear more advice.
I needed real support. People who understood. People I could be honest with.
I needed a soft landing — a place to return to when I was pushing myself and felt scared or discouraged.
When I needed to laugh off an awkward encounter, or when I had something to celebrate.And I needed a path forward.
Because staying stuck wasn’t an option anymore.
For me, pregnancy became my turning point.
I decided: Enough. I couldn’t keep doing it the same way.
The first thing I did was get support.
I started challenging my thinking, unraveling old stories, and making new choices — ones that sparked connection, empowerment, freedom, and possibility.
I began showing up more and more as myself. And the more I did, the more I actually enjoyed being around people.
I didn’t have to psych myself up anymore.
I stopped feeling physically ill before social events — a true miracle.
I let it be awkward and imperfect. I even started having fun with it.
Are things perfect? Nope. I’m still working on it. Still human.
But my life is well-peopled.
I feel connected — to myself and to others.
Life is richer, lighter, more fun.
I stopped waiting for the “right” people to come along and invite me in.
I started where I was.
I changed my approach. I got out of my own way.
I found people I feel at home with.
You can, too. And I can help.
As both a therapist and someone who’s been through it, I know how hard it can be to put yourself out there — especially when you’re shy, anxious, or just feeling rusty.
To navigate fear, disconnection, awkwardness, and doubt.
That’s why I’ve dedicated my coaching practice to helping thoughtful, connection-seekers in their 30s and 40s get unstuck, build confidence, and create the meaningful friendships and community they’ve been craving.
Let’s talk about how I can help you find your people and the community you want.
Book a call.
Let’s get you connected with people who get you.
