Even as a kid, I often felt a little out of sync socially.

I wasn’t the outgoing, popular one – I was shy, sensitive, and often on the quieter side. Still, I always had friends. 

​​Looking back, I see how much school gave me a structure that made connection possible. But adulthood was different. Friendships became harder to form and even harder to keep. New ones felt surface-level, old ones drifted. Eventually, I started to believe I was the problem. That belief fed a lot of shame – and a growing fear that something essential was broken.

So I stopped trying. I told myself I was fine on my own, and in many ways, I was. I’ve always been independent, and there was comfort in solitude. But I was lonely, too. My life was full and busy, but I longed for the kind of friendship that seemed easy for other people. I just didn’t know how to get there.

Everything shifted after a major life change forced me to take stock. I finally admitted I wanted more – and that it was worth trying for. That was the beginning. It didn’t change overnight, but slowly, I built something new. Now, I feel more rooted in connection. My relationships are steady, reciprocal, and real.

And this is the work I do now.

I work with thoughtful millennials who are craving deeper friendships and community, but don’t know where to start. 

There are so ways ways we end up disconnected – moves, breakups, work stress, anxiety, all of it. But we rarely talk about how hard it can be to rebuild. So when we find ourselves isolated, it feels like we failed somehow. You didn’t.

If connection feels out of reach, it’s not your fault. But it is up to you to do something about it.

And you don’t have to figure it out alone.